I totally disagree when someone said that the more relationship you had before, the more experience you have. (I'm talking about being a lover, not about the bed.) From my point of view, it's how much first love taught you. How serious you are in it, and how hurt you got from the seperation. It simply means, one big loss of a love will make someone more mature than those who had 10 broke ups that cause them a little bitter feeling or no feeling.
Relationship needs compatiblity. The way both lovers think (one serious but the other just want someone to be with her will not work) , the gap of their likes and dislikes (everyone got their different taste but try not to widen the gap too much) and much more.
After my broke up and see how much my ex-girlfriend has change, i begin to think about compability. Although you used to be very happy together but everyone change, and more before maturity comes (Maturity in the sense of Grow Up not Grow Old). Even if we happen to be together again, i don't think i wanna be with her anymore coz our world is so different now. The gap is too wide. She's like a noble's daughter who stay in the palace and i'm just a soldier in the battlefield.
I take some time to understand someone before i decide to go after her. Seperation is bitter. I bet most people will say, "Tell her how you feel". The risk of telling her how you feel is just rejection and the reward is far better off. I know about that and i bet most people who say this thought that you just know her for some time and is okay if she feels uneasy with you after that. But what about she is your friend? A close friend of yours? Now that's getting harder wasn't it?
Being a friend got its own set of rules when it comes to boys-girls friendship (except you're homosexual.) and the destroyers of that friendship is Love (the special kind of love, not friend's love) and uneasiness with each other. You might lose a friend if you confess. That's the risk you have to take.
Just like how the song of James Blunt goes, "Goodbye my Lover, Goodbye my Friend."
Hmmm... A very profound perspective of love you got here. Somehow, I remember the old saying that goes like: "Luck is like water. No matter how hard you trap it inside your hands, it always finds its way out." We cannot be lucky with everything. The same applies to love. Now I wonder, what if we use a plastic container to trap the water? The moral of this comment: "Its about time you take over your fate." Sometimes the hands of fate must be forced also. And stop being lazy, even in love.
ReplyDeletelazy in love!? i never feel someone can be lazy in love... when love comes, ull automaticallly do things for it..that's only called LOVE..else its juz normal friendship :P
ReplyDeletebann....u really only blog things when ur moody and sad??
then go watch the vedioclip...
the stupid japanese dance one mauahahahaha
I'm not lazy in love. Just don't know what to do about it. That's why. I got do things, but not so aggressively... Very subtle :)
ReplyDeleteif I read u correctly ,this person is a fren of urs whom u had subconsciously or maybe consciously attracted to.
ReplyDeletenow-the fear of losing a fren should u confessed or some sort of ill feeling when bumping into each other...
y don't u 1st test the water?
well,when it comes to gals,its pretty straight 4ward to find out if she is interested to b more than frens.
1-when u sms her,she will definitely reply FAST
2-when u ask her out,she will of course look her very best 4u ;) n if she is already ur fren,I think its easy4u2ask her out.
3-she will try all ways2get ur attention,those bolder ones might even drop u a hint *make sure u catch it*
4-talk bout something happy,laff out loud w her THEN tell her bout some other gals,u might wanna see if her voice changed
5-movie just the 2of u,if she agrees..high chance she likes u too.
well,if u scored 3out of 5...ur in for a 50% chance of winning her heart.
gd luck.
jo-van
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ReplyDeleteI guess zero =.=" Still got room for improvement. My project still under developement...